spiritual growth

The Hero's Journey of Humiliation (complete with direct references to at least four bodily excretions)

Six weeks ago tonight, at about 10 pm, my water broke. I didn’t tell Kurt till afterward, because I was confident (and correct!) that amniotic fluid is not his idea of a great addition to an amorous encounter.  We’d been endeavoring to set the wheels of labor into motion, but had no idea we’d have [...]

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Wake Up In Bed: 6 Ways Monogamous Sex Can Stoke Self-Realization (1 of 6)

I’m starting this series with no earthly idea how many “ways monogamous sex can stoke self-realization” I’ll want to write about.  Six?  Sixty-six?  Here’s the first: The wisdom of no escape:  If you’re going to keep your commitment to monogamy AND get laid, you’ve got to figure out how to make a sexual connection with [...]

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Do you look like a dead fish? ~ a passion poem from Rumi

      With passion pray. With passion make love. With passion eat and drink and dance and play. Why look like a dead fish in this ocean of God? – Rumi (1207-1273), translated by Daniel Ladinsky I’m such a fool for Rumi’s turned-on, God-drunk brand of devotional poetry that in 1998, Kurt and I [...]

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The Wrenching Loss That Woke Me Up

The process of recovering from my miscarriage has necessitated looking at a lot of the places in my life where I wasn’t telling the truth, where I wasn’t being courageous, where I was trying to play it safe but creating anything but comfort, safety, and happiness. I wasn’t feeling as close to my husband as [...]

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