personal growth

Imperfect Self-Care

Tamarisk Saunders-Davies and Mara Glatzel – two women I adore individually – teamed up to do a February Self-Care Blog Hop.  And how tickled am I?  They invited me to contribute my messy, mega-human take on self-care to the storyline.  Click the badge over there to read the other posts in the series. Ahem.  Here [...]

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The Hero's Journey of Humiliation (complete with direct references to at least four bodily excretions)

Six weeks ago tonight, at about 10 pm, my water broke. I didn’t tell Kurt till afterward, because I was confident (and correct!) that amniotic fluid is not his idea of a great addition to an amorous encounter.  We’d been endeavoring to set the wheels of labor into motion, but had no idea we’d have [...]

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Every object winks at me… my charms must be at their height

“Mirabai (c. 1498-1550) is the most renowned woman poet-saint of India, her songs sung by Hindus, Muslims, and Sikhs alike.” – Daniel Ladinsky, from “Love Poems from God” Mira is also my daughter’s namesake, for her poems reveal a heart on fire for the divine and a body fully inhabited. She (like so many of [...]

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It's not you, it's me: How family karma shapes your relationship

Do you ever get the feeling your partner is relating more to someone from her past – say, his mom or her big brother – than to you?  Like you do something and the reaction is out of proportion or out of sync with what you did, as if some old junk is getting triggered?  [...]

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How You Teach is How You Do Everything

(You don’t teach?  How you Lead.  How you Coach.  How you Parent.  Insert the appropriate word as needed.) As you read through the following pairs of descriptors, you may see yourself (or aspects of you) more than once.  I sure do.  This list of ways we approach teaching is both diagnostic and prescriptive.  Each point [...]

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Could the world use a good kick in the pants?

I sure think it could.  And I know just who can give it the kick it needs: Girls. How do I know? I’ve lived it. My mom was 19 when I was born, the summer after her first year in college.  She had wanted to be a nurse practitioner, but stopped after another year of [...]

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Do you really need to improve?

I made this video as a rant after coaching too many clients this week who wanted to “get better” in some way, when all they really needed was to FEEL better, in order to get better results.  They nourished themselves, and the seemingly insurmountable challenges turned out to be mightily manageable.  That’s the good news! [...]

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Lost Your Mojo, Too?

Sometimes our business is doing well – or well enough – but WE aren’t doing so well. I’ve been there. I figured out why. And my intent with this article is to be of help if you’re up to your eyeballs in the same predicament. The light has dimmed. You’re not fed, fired up, vivified [...]

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The Wrenching Loss That Woke Me Up

The process of recovering from my miscarriage has necessitated looking at a lot of the places in my life where I wasn’t telling the truth, where I wasn’t being courageous, where I was trying to play it safe but creating anything but comfort, safety, and happiness. I wasn’t feeling as close to my husband as [...]

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