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My Recipe for Connection: Selective, Playful, Intense

An online interview wherein I disclose my 3-part recipe for connectedness: selective, playful, intense. Hot-stuff relationship coach and blogger Tamarisk Saunders-Davies asks some toothsome questions about connection.  And, I admit, I give some pretty lip-smackin’ answers.  Check it ‘n see.

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At elephant journal: The 12 Elements of Masculine and Feminine Power in Relationships

It’s a tough time to be in love, right?  We have an unprecedented wealth of opportunity to express the full range of our human capacities in the world.  But coming home after all that and kicking off our loafers or stilettos or Danskos or Keens (you catch my drift), the cozy slippers of domestic bliss [...]

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10 Myths About Monogamy That Are Crushing Your Joy

Quick:  name five of the most confusing concepts in current human experience?  If you said “sex, happiness, men, women, and change” I’d have to agree. I guess I’d also be with you if you’d said “muskrat love, the “4-hour” workweek, why the U.S. government considers businesses ‘people,’ how disapproval is supposed to motivate anyone, and [...]

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This I Believe: The Hot Love Manifesto

I’m spearheading a revolution in monogamous relationships.  I call it the Hot Love Revolution.  It’s rooted in these 11 key beliefs about people, relationships, and what’s possible: 1.  I BELIEVE IN PERSONAL EVOLUTION: The point of human life is to hone our souls – to learn, heal, grow, become something brighter and more tender and [...]

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Your Desires Want to Set the Record Straight

Hey.  Your desires called.* They wanted me to pass along a few messages, ’cause they’ve noticed you don’t give them the kind of attention they deserve.  They’re guessing it’s because you don’t really know what they’re for or how they can help you, your relationship, and your magnificent work in the world.  But they (with [...]

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Opening to the Feminine: Four Steps to Nourishment

Four steps to opening to the feminine for your nourishment. This post is the sequel to a guest post I did on Molly Gordon’s Authentic Marketing blog.  The first post had all the here’s-what’s-going-on and this post is the how-to-tap-in.  If you haven’t read the first post, do so first, then pop back here for [...]

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Skydiving and Life: No Turning Back

Taking a leap can be as scary as it is exciting.  I went skydiving once, and I put my foot out on the strut under the wing, leaned back into the fuselage and decided I didn’t want to jump out of a perfectly good airplane.  I had an instructor carabinered to my back, though, so [...]

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Happy IS Helpful

My husband Kurt’s facebook posting yesterday:  “I planted hydrangeas for my girlie.”  And I kept him company.  He thanked me, and I said, “What am I doing?”  He said, “Just your being here is helping me.” We’ve both been working hard on the yard for about a month, now, but as I think back on [...]

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