how to be a better wife

How Much Can You Receive?

If you’re not getting what you desire, expand your receptive capacity. Clients often tell me “He doesn’t…” “She won’t…” “It seems like there’s never time to…” “I just wish that…” There are longings in all our hearts to feel more _____.  Easeful, cherished, abundant, ravished, adored, successful, smart… Whatever it is you want to feel [...]

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My Recipe for Connection: Selective, Playful, Intense

An online interview wherein I disclose my 3-part recipe for connectedness: selective, playful, intense. Hot-stuff relationship coach and blogger Tamarisk Saunders-Davies asks some toothsome questions about connection.  And, I admit, I give some pretty lip-smackin’ answers.  Check it ‘n see.

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Hot relating: ups and downs are equally potent

Prize the painful parts? Ya kiddin’ me? No, I’m not. I love this graphic image of how the roller coaster ride of relationship can – in itself – become the aim of relationship. So much of the advice on relating is about how to keep your couplehood there in the mid-zone, where things are hunky-dory. [...]

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Generously share your beauty

“I want you to have this, all the beauty in my eyes, and the grace of my mouth, all the splendor of my strength, all the wonder of the musk parts of my body, for are we not talking about real love, real love?” ― Mirabai (c. 1498-1550), translated by Daniel Ladinsky Growing up as [...]

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Are you with your soul mate?

Those of us who want a lot from marriage and from life can occasionally get caught in this question. “Yeah, I loooove my partner, and we have tons of history.  And there’s goodness there.  But what about that cosmic-fire, planets-tilting-on-their-axes, thisismysoulmate kind of feeling?  I don’t feel that way here.  Should I spend the rest [...]

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Happy IS Helpful

My husband Kurt’s facebook posting yesterday:  “I planted hydrangeas for my girlie.”  And I kept him company.  He thanked me, and I said, “What am I doing?”  He said, “Just your being here is helping me.” We’ve both been working hard on the yard for about a month, now, but as I think back on [...]

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