how to be a better husband

What women wish men knew, part 9 of 9: Taming the Tigress.

This is the ninth and final in a series of love notes I’ve written to men. Countless times, women have asked if I could help their husbands understand a few sticky truths about women, men, and love. In the intimacy and safety of a coaching relationship, I do exactly that. Now, for the first time, [...]

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What women wish men knew, part 8 of 9: What does she need most?

This is the eight in a series of love notes I’ve written to men. Countless times, women have asked if I could help their husbands understand a few sticky truths about women, men, and love. In the intimacy and safety of a coaching relationship, I do exactly that. Now, for the first time, I’m sharing [...]

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What women wish men knew, part 7 of 9: You’re the only one who can open her.

This is the seventh in a series of love notes I’ve written to men. Countless times, women have asked if I could help their husbands understand a few sticky truths about women, men, and love. In the intimacy and safety of a coaching relationship, I do exactly that. Now, for the first time, I’m sharing [...]

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What women wish men knew, part 6 of 9: Relish the learning curve.

This is the sixth in a series of love notes I’ve written to men. Countless times, women have asked if I could help their husbands understand a few sticky truths about women, men, and love. In the intimacy and safety of a coaching relationship, I do exactly that. Now, for the first time, I’m sharing [...]

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What women wish men knew, part 5 of 9: She treats you that way because she doesn’t feel safe.

This is the fifth in a series of love notes I’ve written to men. Countless times, women have asked if I could help their husbands understand a few sticky truths about women, men, and love. In the intimacy and safety of a coaching relationship, I do exactly that. Now, for the first time, I’m sharing [...]

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What women wish men knew, part 4 of 9: She won’t feel safe until you handle her.

This is the fourth in a series of love notes I’ve written to men. Countless times, women have asked if I could help their husbands understand a few sticky truths about women, men, and love. In the intimacy and safety of a coaching relationship, I do exactly that. Now, for the first time, I’m sharing [...]

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What women wish men knew, part 3 of 9: She wants to be penetrated.

This is the third in a series of love notes I’ve written to men. Countless times, women have asked if I could help their husbands understand a few sticky truths about women, men, and love. In the intimacy and safety of a coaching relationship, I do exactly that. Now, for the first time, I’m sharing [...]

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What women wish men knew, part 2 of 9: How to get it right.

This is the second in a series of love notes I’ve written to men. Countless times, women have asked if I could help their husbands understand a few sticky truths about women, men, and love. In the intimacy and safety of a coaching relationship, I do exactly that. Now, for the first time, I’m sharing [...]

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Penetrate Her: The need strong women want men to know about

Psst. Your wife asked me to explain a few things. She may not even know these, and it’d be harder to hear coming from her than from me. So here I go. Don’t shoot the messenger. You know what your partner wishes you knew? {This is not about all women or all men.} This is [...]

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The Nice Guy's Guide to A Turned-On Life: with more fun, more respect, and more sex

I adore men.  It breaks my heart that women so misunderstand you.  And it pisses me off that so many of the good things that have happened for (at least some) women in the past 50 years have created such funky dynamics between empowered women and the good guys who love them.  We emasculate you [...]

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Hot relating: ups and downs are equally potent

Prize the painful parts? Ya kiddin’ me? No, I’m not. I love this graphic image of how the roller coaster ride of relationship can – in itself – become the aim of relationship. So much of the advice on relating is about how to keep your couplehood there in the mid-zone, where things are hunky-dory. [...]

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